Fears are obstacles of the mind, but some do not go away like the death of one who loved you so unmistakably that no one could ever match. Stuck, yet no one makes us tell the absolute truth until we have a real connection with them. Everyone hears from him about being "A-OK" at pop/psche seminars.
He sees her flower arrangement and words. He approaches her, and she plays deaf and dumb literally. She has been hurt by many many times. When caught he confronts her rudely and hides in the men's room to avoid her anger, but she clarified for him that he, like most males, knows nothing. Often the people that get at us the most bring out of our lives the things we are incapable of doing for ourselves like facing our own demons.